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Jan. 22, 2023

S3.E3. My Baby's Too Young for Sleepovers!

A listener wonders if an infant should have overnight visits with the father while she is breastfeeding. Diane and Rick explore this common concern and discuss what is important at this tender age of development. For a deeper...

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Jan. 15, 2023

S3.E2. Manipulation or Child Abuse: How Do You Know for Sure?

Diane & Rick address a difficult listener question about child abuse. Jennifer’s 5-year-old son doesn’t want to see his dad because dad is abusing him. Mom is worried about her son and wonders if she should withhold custody ...

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Jan. 8, 2023

S3.E1. “Am I an Impossible Co-Parent?”: You might be if…

A listener surprisingly asks if his ex might be right about him. Maybe he IS an impossible co-parent after all! Diane and Rick address this unusual question in a Jeff Foxworthy style - You might be an impossible co-parent if…...

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Jan. 1, 2023

BONUS: Why So Bitter After All These Years?

In this replay of a 2022 episode (S1:E52), Diane & Rick talk about the personal value of forgiveness and the destruction of hanging on to bitterness. Listener Carolina wonders how it is possible to co-parent with someone who ...

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Dec. 25, 2022

BONUS: A Kid with Two Homes: A Discussion with Bella Duncan

In this replay of a 2021 episode (S1:E16), Diane & Rick address a listener dilemma about sticking to the parenting plan or being flexible with weekend time. Australian Blogger Bella Duncan ( www.akidwithtwohomes.com ), a chil...

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Dec. 18, 2022

BONUS: Doctor Office Drama - Slaying the Conflict D.R.A.G.O.N.

In this replay of episode S1:E65, Diane and Rick discuss an email from Thomas in Ontario, who shares his dilemma about attending his toddler’s doctors appointments, while having to endure his co-parent’s drama or failure to i...

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Dec. 11, 2022

BONUS: Responding to an Impossible Co-Parent

In this replay from season 1, Diane & Rick get real about dealing with a narcissistic co-parent. Phrases like crazy-making, gas-lighting. twisting words, and avoiding responsibility, are just a few of the many complaints made...

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Dec. 4, 2022

S2.E6. Case from Hell: Sarah speaks out and a listener discussion

Diane and Rick talk to a group of listeners about theCase from Hell and how it related to their own situations. Also, Diane speaks to Sarah, as she describes the hell she has been in for several years and the toll it has take...

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Nov. 27, 2022

S2.E5. Case from Hell: Our Dream Team Judge Slams the Gavel!

In this final discussion with a Dream Team member, Diane & Rick hear from Georgia Superior Court Judge Angela Duncan. Not surprisingly, as a former family law attorney and GAL, Judge Duncan has strong opinions about the profe...

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Nov. 20, 2022

S2.E4. Case from Hell: Our Dream Team Custody Evaluator Gets Real about Abuse

Diane & Rick explore the complexities of psychological child abuse with mental health expert Dr. Kelley Baker. Why did Sarah’s custody evaluator miss this tragic component? There are no clear answers, but important lessons to...

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Nov. 13, 2022

S2.E3. Case from Hell: Our Dream Team Attorney is On Fire

Attorney Todd Orston joins Diane and Rick to break down what it means to zealously advocate for a client, and how Sarah’s attorney has missed the mark. To reach Todd Orston , visit him on his firm’s website HERE . Want your f...

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Nov. 6, 2022

S2.E2. Case from Hell: Dream Team GAL Discussion

Diane and Rick discuss the case with Guardian ad litem, Debra Hale. she talks about the role of the GAL, misconceptions about their jobs, and how a GAL in this case could have made a huge difference for the children. Want you...

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Oct. 30, 2022

S2.E1. The Case from Hell: Introduction and Overview

Diane and Rick host a special 5-part-series for Season 2 of the podcast, showcasing a real-life and extremely difficult custody case. In this episode, they present the timeline that spans 7 years of court documents, police re...

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Oct. 23, 2022

66. Benefit of the Doubt? You don’t know MY ex!

Diane and Rick respond to a listener review that takes issue with the idea of giving difficult parents the benefit of the doubt. She wonders if that is encouraging further emotional abuse. They respond by explaining the diffe...

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Oct. 16, 2022

65. Doctor Office Drama - Slaying the conflict DRAGON!

Thomas from Ontario shares his dilemma about attending his toddler’s doctors appointments, while having to endure his co-parent’s drama or failure to inform him. Diane and Rick use the process outlined in their new journal (D...

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Oct. 9, 2022

64. “Why does he turn everything positive into a negative?”: Distorted cognitions as a strategy

Tamika from Alabama wonders why her co-parent persists in finding the bad in her, especially since she is trying so hard to be a good co-parent. Diane & Rick break it down and discuss how grieving parents or high conflict peo...

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Oct. 2, 2022

63. 50/50 Pitfalls, Managing Clothing, and the BIG REVEAL!

Diane & Rick address a listener question about 50/50 custody and the nightmare of keeping track of clothing between houses, as well as how difficult the schedule can be for kids of high-conflict co-parents. They also talk abo...

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Sept. 25, 2022

62. Rage and Revenge: A mom’s campaign against stepmom

Rhonda asks for advice about how to deal with a mom who is falsely accusing stepmom of abuse and who goes to extremes to destroy her life. Diane and Rick discuss various roles in the family system and how they need to be clea...

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Sept. 18, 2022

61. The Double Bind: Damned if you do…or don’t

A listeners wonders if it’s healthy to spend family time with her co-parent and her son, even though she considers her ex her enemy! If she keeps pretending to be nice, is that an insurance policy to keep him from taking her ...

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Sept. 11, 2022

60. Don’t Shoot the Messenger! Why kids suffer as the go-between

Diane & Rick addresses a listener’s question about how to help her upset daughter whose dad won’t let her go to a birthday party on his parenting time, unless mom agrees to take her. The real problem here is that both parents...

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Sept. 4, 2022

59: My Favorite Guardian: Do they really care about the best interests of children?

Diane & Rick pose a variety of questions, begging rational answers, about the role of Guardians ad litem in custody cases. Prompted by questions from a professional and a co-parent, they explore how professional delays and co...

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Aug. 27, 2022

58. Too Cool for School: The parenting style clash

Diane & Rick address Patrick’s question about his fear of having structure and rules in his home. He worries that after a couple of years of being the fun house, setting rules now might make his house unattractive to the kids...

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Aug. 21, 2022

57. “My Parents are Cozying Up to My Ex!”

Diane & Rick address Danielle’s dilemma about her co-parent trying to befriend her parents during the divorce process. She’s feeling stuck in the middle between her whining ex and her too-friendly parents. Also, discussed in ...

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Aug. 14, 2022

Daddy's Little Secret

One of the most difficult situations co-parents have to deal with is when there are secrets kept between them. Secrets are usually pretty important topics and should probably be disclosed to the other co-parent, and if the ch...

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