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S2.E4. Case from Hell: Our Dream Team Custody Evaluator Gets Real about Abuse
Nov. 20, 2022
Diane & Rick explore the complexities of psychological child abuse with mental health expert Dr. Kelley Baker. Why did Sarah’s custody evaluator miss this tragic component? There are no clear answers, but important lessons to...
S3.E2. Manipulation or Child Abuse: How Do You Know for Sure?
Jan. 15, 2023
Diane & Rick address a difficult listener question about child abuse. Jennifer’s 5-year-old son doesn’t want to see his dad because dad is abusing him. Mom is worried about her son and wonders if she should withhold custody ...
20. The Dangers of Narcissism
Dec. 5, 2021
In this episode, Diane talks candidly with Rick about the distinction between narcissitic personality disorder and narcissitic tendencies that we all may struggle with. They discuss how narcisstic abuse affects co-parents and...
4. Responding to an Impossible (Narcissist) Co-Parent
Aug. 15, 2021
Phrases like crazy-making, gas-lighting. twisting words, and avoiding responsibility, are just a few of the many complaints made by the co-parent who is frustrated with a narcissistic co-parent. Diane and Rick address Paul fr...
BONUS: Responding to an Impossible Co-Parent
Dec. 11, 2022
In this replay from season 1, Diane & Rick get real about dealing with a narcissistic co-parent. Phrases like crazy-making, gas-lighting. twisting words, and avoiding responsibility, are just a few of the many complaints made...
S4.E51. Interview with the A Little Bit Culty Podcast
Aug. 11, 2024
Have a quick question to be explored on the show? Send us a text message! Include your email address if you would like a personal response. Click HERE Diane & Rick are taking a short break. To round out season four, they are ...
47. I’m Tired of Adjusting to My Co-Parent!
June 12, 2022
Diane & Rick answer Dena’s email questions about her alcoholic co-parent who tells their 9-year-old that the divorce is all mom’s fault. She is exhausted that he won’t listen to their co-parent counselor or take responsibilit...
54. When Do You Tell Your Date about Your Crazy Co-parent?
July 31, 2022
Aaron asks an interesting email question about when it is best to reveal to a new dating partner that you have a very difficult co-parent. Diane & Rick not only address Aaron’s concerns, but talk about dating with children in...
57. “My Parents are Cozying Up to My Ex!”
Aug. 21, 2022
Diane & Rick address Danielle’s dilemma about her co-parent trying to befriend her parents during the divorce process. She’s feeling stuck in the middle between her whining ex and her too-friendly parents. Also, discussed in ...
58. Too Cool for School: The parenting style clash
Aug. 27, 2022
Diane & Rick address Patrick’s question about his fear of having structure and rules in his home. He worries that after a couple of years of being the fun house, setting rules now might make his house unattractive to the kids...
59: My Favorite Guardian: Do they really care about the best interests of children?
Sept. 4, 2022
Diane & Rick pose a variety of questions, begging rational answers, about the role of Guardians ad litem in custody cases. Prompted by questions from a professional and a co-parent, they explore how professional delays and co...
60. Don’t Shoot the Messenger! Why kids suffer as the go-between
Sept. 11, 2022
Diane & Rick addresses a listener’s question about how to help her upset daughter whose dad won’t let her go to a birthday party on his parenting time, unless mom agrees to take her. The real problem here is that both parents...
61. The Double Bind: Damned if you do…or don’t
Sept. 18, 2022
A listeners wonders if it’s healthy to spend family time with her co-parent and her son, even though she considers her ex her enemy! If she keeps pretending to be nice, is that an insurance policy to keep him from taking her ...
62. Rage and Revenge: A mom’s campaign against stepmom
Sept. 25, 2022
Rhonda asks for advice about how to deal with a mom who is falsely accusing stepmom of abuse and who goes to extremes to destroy her life. Diane and Rick discuss various roles in the family system and how they need to be clea...
63. 50/50 Pitfalls, Managing Clothing, and the BIG REVEAL!
Oct. 2, 2022
Diane & Rick address a listener question about 50/50 custody and the nightmare of keeping track of clothing between houses, as well as how difficult the schedule can be for kids of high-conflict co-parents. They also talk abo...
64. “Why does he turn everything positive into a negative?”: Distorted cognitions as a strategy
Oct. 9, 2022
Tamika from Alabama wonders why her co-parent persists in finding the bad in her, especially since she is trying so hard to be a good co-parent. Diane & Rick break it down and discuss how grieving parents or high conflict peo...
65. Doctor Office Drama - Slaying the conflict DRAGON!
Oct. 16, 2022
Thomas from Ontario shares his dilemma about attending his toddler’s doctors appointments, while having to endure his co-parent’s drama or failure to inform him. Diane and Rick use the process outlined in their new journal (D...
66. Benefit of the Doubt? You don’t know MY ex!
Oct. 23, 2022
Diane and Rick respond to a listener review that takes issue with the idea of giving difficult parents the benefit of the doubt. She wonders if that is encouraging further emotional abuse. They respond by explaining the diffe...
BONUS: A Kid with Two Homes: A Discussion with Bella Duncan
Dec. 25, 2022
In this replay of a 2021 episode (S1:E16), Diane & Rick address a listener dilemma about sticking to the parenting plan or being flexible with weekend time. Australian Blogger Bella Duncan ( www.akidwithtwohomes.com ), a chil...
BONUS: Doctor Office Drama - Slaying the Conflict D.R.A.G.O.N.
Dec. 18, 2022
In this replay of episode S1:E65, Diane and Rick discuss an email from Thomas in Ontario, who shares his dilemma about attending his toddler’s doctors appointments, while having to endure his co-parent’s drama or failure to i...
Blog Posts
UNPACKING PARENTAL ALIENATION WITH CHILDREN IN MIND
Aug. 14, 2023
For the purpose of clarity, I have used the term Parent A to describe the parent the children primarily live with and who is being accused of undermining the other parent’s relationship. Parent B is the parent who believes he/she is being un…
SEASON TWO: THE CASE FROM HELL – DREAM TEAM CASE STUDY NOTES
Oct. 30, 2022
To access the podcast episodes corresponding to these notes, visit www.CPDilemmas.com. There you can access Season Two, Episodes 1-6.
(NOTE FROM DIANE: Names of the parties have been changed to protect the information, but all facts of the ca…
S2.E4. Case from Hell: Our Dream Team Custody Evaluator Gets Real about Abuse
Nov. 20, 2022
Diane & Rick explore the complexities of psychological child abuse with mental health expert Dr. Kelley Baker. Why did Sarah’s custody evaluator miss this tragic component? There are no clear answers, but important lessons to...
S3.E2. Manipulation or Child Abuse: How Do You Know for Sure?
Jan. 15, 2023
Diane & Rick address a difficult listener question about child abuse. Jennifer’s 5-year-old son doesn’t want to see his dad because dad is abusing him. Mom is worried about her son and wonders if she should withhold custody ...
20. The Dangers of Narcissism
Dec. 5, 2021
In this episode, Diane talks candidly with Rick about the distinction between narcissitic personality disorder and narcissitic tendencies that we all may struggle with. They discuss how narcisstic abuse affects co-parents and...
4. Responding to an Impossible (Narcissist) Co-Parent
Aug. 15, 2021
Phrases like crazy-making, gas-lighting. twisting words, and avoiding responsibility, are just a few of the many complaints made by the co-parent who is frustrated with a narcissistic co-parent. Diane and Rick address Paul fr...
BONUS: Responding to an Impossible Co-Parent
Dec. 11, 2022
In this replay from season 1, Diane & Rick get real about dealing with a narcissistic co-parent. Phrases like crazy-making, gas-lighting. twisting words, and avoiding responsibility, are just a few of the many complaints made...
S4.E51. Interview with the A Little Bit Culty Podcast
Aug. 11, 2024
Have a quick question to be explored on the show? Send us a text message! Include your email address if you would like a personal response. Click HERE Diane & Rick are taking a short break. To round out season four, they are ...
47. I’m Tired of Adjusting to My Co-Parent!
June 12, 2022
Diane & Rick answer Dena’s email questions about her alcoholic co-parent who tells their 9-year-old that the divorce is all mom’s fault. She is exhausted that he won’t listen to their co-parent counselor or take responsibilit...
54. When Do You Tell Your Date about Your Crazy Co-parent?
July 31, 2022
Aaron asks an interesting email question about when it is best to reveal to a new dating partner that you have a very difficult co-parent. Diane & Rick not only address Aaron’s concerns, but talk about dating with children in...
57. “My Parents are Cozying Up to My Ex!”
Aug. 21, 2022
Diane & Rick address Danielle’s dilemma about her co-parent trying to befriend her parents during the divorce process. She’s feeling stuck in the middle between her whining ex and her too-friendly parents. Also, discussed in ...
58. Too Cool for School: The parenting style clash
Aug. 27, 2022
Diane & Rick address Patrick’s question about his fear of having structure and rules in his home. He worries that after a couple of years of being the fun house, setting rules now might make his house unattractive to the kids...
59: My Favorite Guardian: Do they really care about the best interests of children?
Sept. 4, 2022
Diane & Rick pose a variety of questions, begging rational answers, about the role of Guardians ad litem in custody cases. Prompted by questions from a professional and a co-parent, they explore how professional delays and co...
60. Don’t Shoot the Messenger! Why kids suffer as the go-between
Sept. 11, 2022
Diane & Rick addresses a listener’s question about how to help her upset daughter whose dad won’t let her go to a birthday party on his parenting time, unless mom agrees to take her. The real problem here is that both parents...
61. The Double Bind: Damned if you do…or don’t
Sept. 18, 2022
A listeners wonders if it’s healthy to spend family time with her co-parent and her son, even though she considers her ex her enemy! If she keeps pretending to be nice, is that an insurance policy to keep him from taking her ...
62. Rage and Revenge: A mom’s campaign against stepmom
Sept. 25, 2022
Rhonda asks for advice about how to deal with a mom who is falsely accusing stepmom of abuse and who goes to extremes to destroy her life. Diane and Rick discuss various roles in the family system and how they need to be clea...
63. 50/50 Pitfalls, Managing Clothing, and the BIG REVEAL!
Oct. 2, 2022
Diane & Rick address a listener question about 50/50 custody and the nightmare of keeping track of clothing between houses, as well as how difficult the schedule can be for kids of high-conflict co-parents. They also talk abo...
64. “Why does he turn everything positive into a negative?”: Distorted cognitions as a strategy
Oct. 9, 2022
Tamika from Alabama wonders why her co-parent persists in finding the bad in her, especially since she is trying so hard to be a good co-parent. Diane & Rick break it down and discuss how grieving parents or high conflict peo...
65. Doctor Office Drama - Slaying the conflict DRAGON!
Oct. 16, 2022
Thomas from Ontario shares his dilemma about attending his toddler’s doctors appointments, while having to endure his co-parent’s drama or failure to inform him. Diane and Rick use the process outlined in their new journal (D...
66. Benefit of the Doubt? You don’t know MY ex!
Oct. 23, 2022
Diane and Rick respond to a listener review that takes issue with the idea of giving difficult parents the benefit of the doubt. She wonders if that is encouraging further emotional abuse. They respond by explaining the diffe...
BONUS: A Kid with Two Homes: A Discussion with Bella Duncan
Dec. 25, 2022
In this replay of a 2021 episode (S1:E16), Diane & Rick address a listener dilemma about sticking to the parenting plan or being flexible with weekend time. Australian Blogger Bella Duncan ( www.akidwithtwohomes.com ), a chil...
BONUS: Doctor Office Drama - Slaying the Conflict D.R.A.G.O.N.
Dec. 18, 2022
In this replay of episode S1:E65, Diane and Rick discuss an email from Thomas in Ontario, who shares his dilemma about attending his toddler’s doctors appointments, while having to endure his co-parent’s drama or failure to i...
UNPACKING PARENTAL ALIENATION WITH CHILDREN IN MIND
Aug. 14, 2023
For the purpose of clarity, I have used the term Parent A to describe the parent the children primarily live with and who is being accused of undermining the other parent’s relationship. Parent B is the parent who believes he/she is being un…
SEASON TWO: THE CASE FROM HELL – DREAM TEAM CASE STUDY NOTES
Oct. 30, 2022
To access the podcast episodes corresponding to these notes, visit www.CPDilemmas.com. There you can access Season Two, Episodes 1-6.
(NOTE FROM DIANE: Names of the parties have been changed to protect the information, but all facts of the ca…